Lets talk about sex!

Lets talk about sex!

Most of us shy away when we read this topic and rest of us sheepishly laugh over the topic as if there is something really funny about it. If you are looking for some kinky and erotic stuff looking at the title stop reading NOW! 

Because you wont find any of this. That’s the reason why we are still a developing nation with bunch of people who know every thing in the country yet cant change the world. We are so immature in our thought process. I can hardly recollect any thing about sex education during my teenage period. We used to shy away look at girls and smile as if some joke was being said in the class. It is difficult to teach this subject in the classroom specially when you don’t have the support of the students and their parents. Some parents feel it is the most necessary thing a student would learn in a school because most of the parents themselves shy away discussing in open such topics with their child.

We take so much pride to say we are in the 21^st century, we don’t find it cool to wear a dhoti and kurta these days any more! We feel is no uncool! But when it comes to talking about sex! Look at the way we react, when something is being shown on the News about a sex racket being busted or about AIDS or simply about an Adv of a condom or Contraceptive pills we do nothing but change the channel immediately. That’s what we do we simply shy away from reality.

We accept the fact that we know everything but still we don’t miss a chance to read about the sex column in Mumbai Mirror and Mid day regularly. We don’t discuss about it with friends don’t warn them about the complications involved with Premature sex and problems of unsafe sex! It just because we never got that kind of education neither from our parents nor by our system!

The system is to be blamed on the larger perspective! When the Balbir Pasha campaign was a hit it was seen more as a humour among everyone! Still can we call it a success? What about introducing sex education to schools – dirty politics was being played by bunch of illiterate politicians who never saw the face of a school in their childhood but are proud owners of several medical and engineering colleges in the state!  

NOW it’s the time we take some action against all this, the youth of India is growing in big numbers in few years we will have a population half of youth – are we looking at the country with half of its population suffering from AIDS or problems of unprotected sex or STD (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) Its high time we think about the next generation to come in. When we get married we either be prepared to speak confidently with our partners about these things and ensure that our kids are taught of the basic hormonal changes they will undergo in their teens!

We as the youth have to take a pledge to stand up and speak up and ensure that people are aware of this fact that sex education is most important aspect in a teenagers life and cannot be ignored just because we are not confident to speak about it.

I welcome you all to post your comments and discuss how we can take this forward from where we are standing today!   

Promises are meant to be broken?

When it comes to keeping our promises why are we so vulnerable? When you promise someone something why cant you deliver that? Why is it that you forget your words and then make excuses when you are yourself doubtful at the outcome!

In life we have been fooled by people this way only and we too at some point of time or the other have done the same with people around us. What could be more frasturating to wait for someone for hours when you plan a meeting and the worst part could be the person you have come all the way to meet has not only ditched you but is also not answering your calls! I am sure you must have gone through this millions of time! And still you haven't learned from those mistakes the blind faith of trusting people is blended in your heart and soul in such a way that it cant be washed away!

Promises are meant to be broken they say in a poetic way! I say balls to these guys! My anger roars in 360 degree when important people and responsible people fail to realise their mistakes in the most inappropriate manner looking absolutely stupid. People who take pride to show off their designation, their value system, who play a major role in our lives when break promises, divert from their own words, when they play with your emotions, when they play with your belief in them an outrage of emotional imbalance rises in you and suddenly you feel the world is a cruel place where no one takes you seriously.

This is similar to the plight of a common man who walks by the streets of this country, travels in buses and trains with this hope that the responsible elected members of the parliament will keep their promises to make this country a better place to live in. But when they can't even stick to the oath they took to strive for this country, when they cant even attend the sessions of the house - the confidence and belief in them is gonna fade away. Similar is the case with you and me, will you ever trust again if the same person keeps breaking your faith n promises again n again?

So do you still beleive in Promises are meant to broken? Mind it, you dont break promises you break someones trust!

The changing face of Indian Streets

In the next few days this picture will be a common scenario at the streets of Mumbai and elsewhere across the metros in India. Because its only the Metros where the Flags are sold on the traffic signals and India is the only country where everything is sold at the traffic signal. This is just to provoke the integration of the Indian values among the dwellers of this great country.

Don’t be surprised if you see this little girl begging post Independence Day in front of your car tapping on your glass to feed her something. I am not simply criticising the integration of the people who reside in the metros but also the poor condition of the street children. This little girl’s name is Khushi – I took this picture last year on the streets of Mumbai. And I am sure I’ll find her yet again selling off these flags this year too. The only trouble is millions of kids like Khushi ply on the streets of the super power developing India. What do we do about it? We just sit back in our cars, shrug or simply shout at them when they tap our windows and criticize the rising poverty of this country.

We never imagine that these kids are the growing face of India, Khushi and her friends tomorrow will be the face of India and what will you see them doing tomorrow? For someone who spends most of her childhood begging what can be the future like? Can you imagine if you would have to beg day in and day out to all the people around you what will be turn out to be? Imagine begging your own parents to feed you, your siblings to love you, your friends to be with you and care for you. In Khushi’s case neither of this is possible since she has none! These little children undergo different levels of social abuse, rape, drugs selling and other elements which are really not worth listing too.

And thus so called care free youth of emerging India what do we do? We are forced to forget all these things and concentrate more on our struggles of surviving the competition. The competition in studies among all the engineers of this country, to competition among all the MBAs, the competition of staying ahead of the competition itself. We just don’t want to divert our attention from our own problems so what we do is simply ignore. Ignorance is the best way to remain happy with your own life isn’t it?

Closing your eyes and enjoy the chalta hai attitude. We should be thankful that we have such a great life where we can sit back relax and read the blogs on the internet, have time to chat with friends, have plenty of good food to eat and few little problems of which we ourselves know the solution still we like cribbing about it. We ourselves have made our life so complicated that even when we have the desire to the help someone the willingness fades away!

This independence day when you walk on the streets of this city look around to find may of these little children trying to sell the Indian Flag to you in a hope that may be they can now fulfil their desire of eating good food one day, probably buy a new dress or may be just feel happy that they earned something.

If after reading all this you feel sorry for Khushi and her friends, tell me how can we make a difference by doing something exciting about for them. If you wish to volunteer theres a NGO in Mumbai since 1991 who work for these street children here is the link for you to register as a volunteer. http://www.voiceofchildren.org/volunteer_01.html

Lets make a difference. Lets make more and more children smile and secure the future of India.

Tell me how will you make a difference this Independence day…

Cuddling the Silent Death

Like a silent arrow

It hits me deep within,

As the blood splashes out,

I close my eyes in despair.

The pain still exists

It rotten my soul

Like a deadly poison

As tears roll down my eyes,

I calmly sneak in a corner

To wipe them off,

I see my reflection,

On the blood splashed below.

Trying to stand on my feet,

I tremble in the darkness,

I fight with my will power,

But its too late...

As the hands of the clock meet.

My time has arrived,

I kiss goodbye to life

And embrace death as it comes..

Dreams are fuel for Human Minds!

Someone once told me that I dream alot. Yes! I am a day dreamer and some people say that Day Dreamers never achieve. The fact of the matter is that all men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recess of their minds, wake up to find it was all vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous, for they may act with open eyes and make things happen!

There are few things which have changed my entire way of looking at things, my perception has been newly defined to find new and varied interesting but weird ways to adopt myself in my new lifestyle.

As each day passes by, I discover the new me in my own true self. The small and little things make me wonder that how beautiful life is and how each creature lives up to his dreams and prays to overcome and conquer it.

The dream within is a source of happiness, a perception that keeps us alive, brings harmony to our lives, brings positive energy, an emotion that keeps us binded towards our goal and a belief that someday it will happen and our dream will come true.

A dream is a source of inspiration, a source of vision, the higher you dream, the more restless you are to chase your dreams, to work for it to run for it, to pursue it, to grab it and to achieve it.

People live life for dreams as dreams are promo of the real life struggle! The goal can be seen crisp clear shinning in the mindsets but the real picture is far different. That’s what fuels in the emotions and the desperation to chase those dreams!

Dreams are never broken! It’s the attitude to chase them and the passion to grab them is broken and weaken. Dreams are expectations that one has in life, that one particular dream, where one sees himself in all possible ways he can, achieving success boundlessly, luxury unaccountably, richness undefined and finally peace of mind.

Dreams are the fuel for human minds, because when you slog whole day a dream can change your life. It is a clear hint from your sub-conscious mind ‘ that look its time for you to change your attitude now and let the dream be chased’.

Dreaming is an extra ordinary talent, a power miraculously when channelized and used systematically in the right hands of the right people can bring revolutionary changes in the lives of the millions of people in the world and not simply your own life!

Sam Walton saw a dream, Gandhiji saw a dream, Ambani’s saw a dream and the Tata’s saw a dream & I see a dream every day. That I will be successful as them or even more! That’s my dream!

Confidence is the key to Success

Confidence and success go hand in hand… let me first define what is success mantra of my life? As an individual I have access to ample of information from the different sources, when I use this information at the right time and at the right place, it boosts my self confidence and people see me as a knowledgeable person, and when I club this knowledge with some kind of skill Its success for me. Confidence is a booster, an inner feeling which helps you to over come all your fears in life and simply make you live up to that Just do it attitude! Confidence is a perception that you need to develop as time passes by in your life, it’s a belief you carry about yourself, it makes you realise who you are. Because in your own heart you know who you are and what you want to be in life, people with high self confidence dream high in life to live up to their expectations, vice versa is the case with the losers.

Success has its own definition in the eyes of every individual, it’s a subjective term, but Confidence is the key to success. It’s the first step towards where you just try and forget about the consequences. When a small kid rides his first cycle, he gains confidence as he rides small patches of the road, though he looses his balance or even falls but the joy of riding makes him push the limits and go for it. Confidence to me and you is somewhere the same, in today’s life confidence is the fuel for human minds which enables them to chase their dreams and conquer whatever they want. Confidence, again to me is a belief that Never take a step backward not even to gain momentum, with this Die Hard attitude I believe that success will be yours. With a positive attitude you can take criticism in life, turn your failures into success stories, and finally just be yourself.